Have you ever met somebody who never says a word, and then suddenly, out of nowhere, somebody brings up a specific topic of conversation… and this “somebody” cannot stop talking! How often does it happen to you
that you get caught in a conversation where time flies and suddenly you realise you missed your lift home! You see, we tend to talk for hours about the things we are most interested in.
Before you move on to the next part, please do these exercises first, since this is exercise number 8, and you will have no idea what this is about if you haven’t done the first 7. Click on the links below for each respectively:
Exercise 1, Exercise 2, Exercise 3, Exercise 4, Exercise 5, Exercise 6, Exercise 7… also, if you haven’t read the book yet, please enter your details on the right!
Right, let’s continue. Whenever you talk outside of somebody else’s value system, they will shut down. When, on the other side, people talk about something that is Highest on your Values, you tend to connect instantly and the conversation can go for hours! Whenever you meet new people, you tend to end up talking about things that are common to you both… this is how friends are made… Focus too much on what you love, the other person might get bored, focus too much on what they love, and they might think you are closed off or secretive. This doesn’t mean that you only make friends with people who have the same values as you… but that are a completely different discussion for another time though.
So, what is it that you can talk about for hours? Which topic will you kick ass in if you had to discuss that in a debate?
Example:
| Things you value | Higher level need that is fulfilled |
| The latest updates on celebrity life | Fame and Fortune |
| Your travels over the last year | Traveling |
| The molecular structure of certain foods | Science |
Here is mine:
| Things you value | Higher level need that is fulfilled |
| Relationship dynamics | Relationships |
| Life, love and the universe | Spiritual awareness |
| How to get people to a state of empowerment | Business / vision |
Your turn… what do you talk to strangers about? How about your friends? or random people on the bus?
Question 8: What subject of conversation keeps you interested for hours at a time? If you meet a new person, what do you love bringing up in conversation? Which topic of conversation makes you feel confident in talking about?
Till our next discussion…
Take care