Now that we have explored the one extreme of the scale when it comes to give and take, we are ready to see the other side. If you are interested in catching up on what’s been done so far, please stop reading, fill in your details on the right and download the e-book so you can also receive all the updates.
Let’s start with a question: Do you know anybody who doesn
‘t allow any other way than their way? Ever worked for a boss who is always in control and does everything
themselves as they “don’t trust anybody to do the job as well as they can?” Have you ever felt like you know better, and if everybody would just listen to you, the world would be a better place?
If you can relate to any of these 3 examples, or you know somebody like this, you will see a whole new side of this story today. All of this is, off course, still related to people’s Highest Values.
Because the world is a diverse place, everybody needs to have different skills, interests and opinions for things to work. If everybody had the same opinion and skills, or nobody every challenged an accepted view, we would still be thinking that the world is flat and …read more
In the previous post I explained potential reasons why some people choose to give up their Highest Values (i.e. what they need or want most), for others. There is also another side to this story, but I wanted to give you that information first, otherwise you are likely to put yourself into this category without being honest with yourself and really thinking about what you do. If you have not yet read the previous posts, do so now, and do the exercises given.
Part 1, Part 
2
The law of reciprocity states that the universe will give to you whatever you have given. This is undeniably true, but if you have any doubts about this, it is probably because you don’t recognise the form in which the universe gives to you… this concept is explained in more detail in Chapter 5 in my e-book.
The problem that people experience when jumping straight to this law as their reason for giving instead of what I have mentioned in the previous posts, is the emotion that is attached to the giving and receiving, they think they are giving because they want to, but if you did the previous exercises properly and honestly, I am sure you understand how many times you give to others with conditions.
Fact: people give and receive all the time. However, giving from conditional space …read more
If you have not read Part 1 of this series, please click here to catch up.
So far we have mentioned that there are some underlying reasons why people will ignore what is most important to them and choose to follow other people’s Values instead. I also mentioned that you can only take care of others once you have taken care of yourself… so here is some more information and an exercise to help you understand this even better.
If you are in a relationship or a job where you feel that your needs aren’t met, why are you still there? If you valued yourself, you would not be there (some of you might disagree, but this is true with one exception: if you feel there is something there for you to learn). It really is that simple!
I am not saying you have to leave your job or relationship straight away, but at least make an effort to improve things so you get what you need and if THAT doesn’t work, then leave.
As with anything in life though, communication is key, learning how to speak in somebody else’s value systems will get you very far in getting what you want… you have to learn how to “ask” in the right way. This will be discussed in more detail in a few weeks from now.
If you stay in a specific type of situation that is not optimal for your health, relationships, finances or yourself, you are there because it serves you on some level, and yes, it is your choice …read more
Our values are like a hidden priority list that is stored in our minds. Every second of every day we get bombarded with information from the external and internal world, but there is no way you can process 
all this information. Before your reality is created, your mind has a filtering process that only allows the most relevant information through… one of these filters is your “Highest Values”. If you have read my free e-book, this should make sense, and if it doesn’t, arrange a Skype session with me so I can explain this. If you have not read the e-book, stop what you are doing, fill in your details on the right and download the e-book now.
Since we do what is most important to us in any given moment, we will always live according to our Highest Values and get exactly what we want… right? Wrong!
There are a couple of reasons why people would choose to give up what is important to them. They will not live according to their own Highest Values but rather live according to the values of …read more
themselves as they “don’t trust anybody to do the job as well as they can?” Have you ever felt like you know better, and if everybody would just listen to you, the world would be a better place?